Spilling All The Tea On First Time Feels

Chomi!

The skin is the largest organ you have, it goes all over your body, covers everything jo - like even between your toes moghel, teeny tiny places you probably don't even think about. This large organ is ultra sensitive to external stimuli. The body is one smart piece of biological tech, it makes sure that you can't touch your skin without tickling yourself. Can you imagine being late for school njalo because you're always laughing yourself silly when you're putting lotion on? Yeah… can't work.

When someone touches skin, softly, tenderly and your mind understands that that touch is not a threat to you, or feel good hormones like oxytocin, serotonin & endorphins start flowing and it's instantly lit! Each hormone works slightly differently but together they tell the body: “ku mmnandi la.”

• Serotonin is released into your blood stream whenever there is gentle touch, like bae running his fingers slowly on your neck - improving your mood, relaxing you by making you feel less anxiety
• Oxytocin is “The Cuddle Chemical” that makes you feel good because of the warm temperatures of bae’s hand
• Endorphins have your heart doing cartwheels because being in contact with someone else's skin it makes you feel really happy.

Ngapha the scent of his cologne, the curve of his smile, the way he holds you, how he stands and the sound of his voice just aren't letting up! It's sensory bliss 💞💞💞💞

Your body is meant to feel the feels, mntase it will even galela the chemical fuel to make sure you feel it deeply! They call it boy crazy… but actually it's the hormones turning all the way up in your mzimba!

Even with the hormone party raging and sensory bliss, remember the consequences of whatever your first is - remain.

Breathe in slowly and

• Let bae know what you are willing to do
• Let bae know what you're not willing to do
• Do only what you feels good and respects the boundaries you set out
• If you're no longer comfortable with what you thought you would be anymore - stop bae
• Consent is never fixed, it's constantly changing and can be taken away at any point you don't feel good or comfortable anymore.

No is a full sentence okay moghel. Your body, your rules. Okay?